So me and my significant other were having a discussion about positive reinforcements from other people and if it makes a difference to tell someone they can do something verses telling them they can’t. I’ve learned something about myself recently, i realized that when someone tells me I can’t do something I feel like they are trying to put me down. I dislike how I feel because my mind can’t tell the difference between are they trying to help me by pointing out all the reasons I can’t accomplish my goal, or are they just being negative. I love encouraging people and telling them that they can, while also recognizing that there is a possibility or failing it still shouldn’t stop you. I don’t like underestimating people, I feel like it’s unfair. My significant other however believes he’s helping a person by telling them all the reasons something is not going to work, he said he’s being logical which I understand. What I don’t understand is why not also encourage the person while being logical. Does being logical critical or encouraging make a difference? Do they all work together?