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    I have been having a really hard time lately. i have stumbled a few times these past few days and i am very sad. I am in a hole of despair.

    I am not writing this forum to talk about my sadness as i have done it in other forums. I am writing this to remind myself of my compassionate side. I wrote my ex because i wanted to know if he felt the pain i feel without him. This goes against everything i am. I am not the person to wish bad upon anyone. I feel terrible but instead of writing him another sad email and begging him to see me as the person i am, i am choosing to write to my brothers and sisters on this site. I have come across a couple of amazing things in the past couple of days. First is a YouTube video from Buddhist TV. The man speaking in this video makes it easier to understand the concept of mindfulness and this phrase “it is what it is”. there are a couple of more videos of him in which he explains various teachings of The Buddha in a very simple way.

    I have also come across couple of support groups who are available throughout the U.S (i am not sure about other countries as i only looked for them in states). I am going to a Codependency support group meeting on Thursday. I called someone from that group who’s number was listed on the cite and she listened to me and has welcomed me to treat her like a sponsor. This is a 12 step program to recover from codependency and lead a more peaceful and content life by developing self love. she also recommended me to look for a support group for adult children of alcoholics. Even though not either one of parents is an alcoholic, this group address many other issues of childhood abuse. I strongly urge anyone who is going through intense amount of pain currently to look at these cites and help themselves.



    What i have learned from emailing my ex yesterday is that no one in this world will help you if you don’t help yourself. i am trying to make a family that i never had and hence seeking like minded people to support me in this journey without judgement. Meanwhile, i am working on not judging myself. I am still recovering and i still cry but i am trying my hardest to get out of this very very dark hole. I knew i had to get up and find help when i even gave hurting myself a thought. I know there is so much suffering in this world but with a little compassion for each other we can make it livable and perhaps maybe one day…pleasant and lovable.




    Hi Sapna,

    Thank you for sharing your experiences and resources. Please keep us posted with your progress! It’ll take some time and patience, but you’ll get there. 🙂


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