Dear dreaming715:

Congratulations for a year of no contact with your mother!

I appreciate your need to vent and welcome it and I understand your sadness at observing what appears to be loving relationships between other daughters and their mothers.

anita

Hi,

I have a very similar experience as you. I have not talked to my mother since memorial day (5 months). My mother was also neglective and abandoned me when i was 18. The reason for my mothers issues are because she is addicted to cocaine. I did not tell my mother to stop talking to me however she made that decision herself. Some days i do wonder what it would be like for my mom to actually care about me, to come visit and do fun things with me. But then i remember the emotions i felt while she was still in my life, and the amount of hurt and sadness that came over me whenever i had to deal with her. Take your mothers wrong actions and let them benefit you in a positive way. Think about it this way, your mother showed you how to NOT be a mom. Use her actions to make yourself into a GREAT parent (if you want to have kids) or into a great human being who treats other people in a respectful way!