My bf and I of 4 years recently broke up. He has always had this need to have “plutonic” relationships with women. I don’t know what to call it or if you’ll understand what I’m saying. But we had been talking the past two weeks. as usual he is giving mixed signals. right now we are 750 miles apart. I was working for him at his business. So when I left they ended up hiring the girl who was our accountant because her firm fired her ironically like a few days before him and I split. Ok so Today I text him and oddly he replied right away and he was more talkative than usual I even got an emoji. I’m lucky to even get a reply at all (IKR Why do I bother) so he says well “Jill” (we will call her) is sick and I’m gonna be swamped today. But then he proceeds to text me about the dating site and how he’s fine being plutonic with women yada yada.. it led me to my last straw. I blocked all his calls and texts now. But of course my brain won’t shut up and all of a sudden I thought ok usually he’s always “busy” and can’t give me the time of day. But on a day when his secretary’s sick and he’s “swamped” he now has all kinds of time to talk? Weird right? He’s cheated on me once, and numerous times I found emails to women from the plutonic section of cl. And sorry after you cheated it’s a huge red flag seeing that stuff. So why do I care now? Well, because I still care. So my question is, am I just reading too much into it all or is there some kind of disorder where he NEEDS to talk with a woman. Because my money is on the fact that since “Jill” was sick, that was the ONLY reason he bothered to talk to me. Thanks guys for listening. I’m seriously a nut about this guy and I want to move on but for me I need to clarify it’s him and not me. Because he is by my research a total narcissist.