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    Lauren
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    I’m 25 and I moved to London in July to take a very high pressure training position in the NHS. When I first got the role I was happy, I felt I’d finally gotten a job with a wage that would support me and everybody was so excited that I’d landed myself this big opportunity.

    Since moving, my mental health has taken a big hit and old feelings of depression and anxiety have once again for me become a daily battle. I struggle to feel motivated towards the job and setting up my life here, it very much comes in fits and starts. I’m not sure if its the place or the job or both but it feels like my body is telling me no and my rational mind is telling me to endure, to see what could develop and try to not quit (a pattern for me). I’m not sure which to listen to.

    I wander constantly about travelling, and long to be in nature and find the city very ugly and alienating. I find modern life quite odd and struggle with motivation, the only thing that rouses me is nature really, and good food.

    I feel I should carry on for at least a little longer, if not only to consider what the next step could be if this really does turn out to be a road I don’t want to go down anymore.

    any advice or words of wisdom would be really helpful right now, especially since I feel I can’t reveal these thoughts to people in my life as that almost validates them as being real.

     

     

    #390719
    anita
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    Dear Lauren:

    Since moving, my mental health has taken a big hit and old feelings of depression and anxiety have once again become a daily battle. I struggle to feel motivated towards the job and setting up my life here…  I’m not sure if it’s the place or the job or both but it feels like my body is telling me no and my rational mind is telling me to endure, to see what could develop and try to not quit (a pattern for me). I’m not sure which to listen to“-

    – The part of you that is telling you to quit the job is the part of you that wants you to run away from the job and from London (“I wonder constantly about travelling“).

    This part is motivating you to run away by having you perceive the job and London in the worst possible ways (“(I) find the city very ugly and alienating“). It causes you to focus on nature as the heavenly solution (“I..  long to be in nature“).

    As wonderful as nature is, if you were transported to life in nature, day after day… week after week, the anxiety will return sooner than later: that’s the nature of anxiety. It does not disappear when you change locations (or jobs), not for long.

    I suggest that you weaken your desire to quit/run away. Remind yourself that there is no heavenly solution, nowhere really that is anxiety-free. Go to Green Park or Regent Park, or Hyde Park… Slowly breathe in the little nature you can take in there.  Look anew at your job and at London, try to see the good and the beauty in each.

    You may decide later that the job and the city is not for you and that there are better options for you, but for now, give the job and London a chance, and please post again any time you’d like to post. I know anxiety all too well, I experienced similar times to what you are experiencing, so maybe I can provide you with some of the support that you need.

    anita

     

    #390773
    Ry
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    Dear Anita,

    Do you have any recommendations for managing anxiety? I’m relocating for the new job in the new city this weekend and my anxiety is growing. I fear that I’ll be in similar boat as Lauren when I arrive in the new city.

    Thank you,

    Ryan

    #390781
    anita
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    * Dear Ryan:

    I usually don’t reply to members other than the original poster on any one thread, but in this case what I suggest to you may help Lauren because your anxiety is in the same context as hers: moving to a big city, in her case, a huge city: London!

    Here is what I suggest: (1) Make your apartment in the city as comfortable as possible. When anxious in your new home, find comfort in the touch and feel of familiar furniture, like a sofa, and in familiar visuals, like paintings or framed photographs that you may want to hang on the walls.

    (2) Keep some of the routine you enjoyed before the big move. I think of Routine as the best, non-pharmaceutical Remedy for anxiety.

    (3) Go out for a walk every day, be it around your apartment or in a park, a bit of nature.

    (4) Find a socializing opportunity, a friendly place where people come together to relax and enjoy interacting with other people, and go there a few times per week, think of it as a Social Treat.

    (5) There are plenty of free online literature, books and magazines on Mindfulness, as well as guided meditations on the theme that you can download for free. Mindfulness has been incorporated into therapy in the western world, for many years. There are mindfulness exercises and practices that you can adopt on a daily basis.

    anita

     

     

    #390788
    Ry
    Participant

    Thank you, Anita. I do appreciate it.

    Ryan

    #390790
    anita
    Participant

    You are welcome, Ryan.

    anita

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