I am curious to know why it is that some men feel the need to throw in an inappropriate joke whenever they do something that is actually quite kind or romantic? It’s almost like they are trying to negate or distance themselves from whatever sweet or romantic emotion they were feeling that prompted them to do the kind thing or say the romantic words in the first place. Has anyone else experienced this, or is it just me? I really don’t understand this. I have been with my husband for close to thirty years…high school sweethearts in fact, so we have basically grown up together. I love him very much and after many years of thinking that I could perhaps change some of his ways, I am now trying very hard to learn to accept my husband for exactly who he is. The problem is, although nothing serious, his jokes sometimes hurt (and this wasn’t the first time). Here’s the situation: He texted me the other day to go look up the song 500 miles redone by Haley and Michaels….absolutely beautiful song btw. We weren’t fighting or anything, he did it just randomly and as luck would have it, it was exactly what I needed to hear at the moment. Beautiful right? Well, the next text said “Oops! Sorry…wrong number!” What was a beautiful moment for me was tarnished and now when I hear the song, I don’t think about the love that I know what behind his words, but rather I remember the joke. If anyone can explain this phenomenon or advise me how to let go of the disappointment that I feel, I would be grateful.