Dear Kindness,

taking it easy sometimes does not make you lazy! And you could even be lazy doing nothing – it is ok to be lazy. There are no rules about life; life is not about performing but living and sometimes in life you can do a lot, sometimes less and sometimes just be and smell the roses (or not even that – breathing is enough.)

You probably have people in your life, who make themselves very busy all the time. That is ok for them, if it makes them happy. There is no one in the position to tell you how you should live your life, it is up to you. For many variety of rhytmn has proved to be good; too much to do makes you stressed and tight (both mentally and physically) and too little may make you apathetich. Many of us were raised in families, where parents were busy all the time. If that is not the best option for you, you may feel guilty taking free time for yourself  (like you told), but there is nothing to feel guilty about! It is your life and your choices, which you need not “explain” to anyone! You are the expert about yourself and your life, not anybody else! 🙂

• This reply was modified 6 years, 11 months ago by Susannah.
• This reply was modified 6 years, 11 months ago by Susannah.

Dear KINDNESS,

As one Lazy Person to another, I salute you!

Now listen: When we die, there is no Gold Star we get in Heaven for being The Most Productive Person.

You have a job and can pay for yourself to do as you wish. If there was something you HAD to do (i.e. go to an appointment), or something you WANTED to do (i.e. something you were passionate about), you would do it. As it is there is nothing you have to do or want to do, so you are “lazy”. Not what we THINK we “have” to do (clean) or “want” to do (save the world). Those we don’t REALLY  do.

Guess what? It’s OK! (My Puritan ancestors are spinning like Rotisserie chickens right now).

I give you permission to Netflix and Chill!

Inky