Pardon my words but it was plain ‘stupid’ to have said that to a child! Some people don’t know how it can affect in shaping a child’s mind, his/her personality/inner-self.
I once heard my elder cousin sisters telling my mom that my brother has sharp and good facial features and mine are not so good. Since that day an image built in my mind that I’m not good-looking, now when people come and appreciate me; if feel like falling head over heals….which made me commit a lot of mistakes in my life. In short, it had battered my self-confidence. I’m still struggling to have self-esteem and self-respect.

Love yourself as much as you can! I once learned from one of my teachers…’You’re your best friend’. After all, beauty lies within the person; beauty that eyes can see is only external. You’re an amazing person!

batanatasha,

Your mother has a reason why she treated you like that. When your understand her reasons, her past and her personality, you will be able to forgive her inside you, so you no longer will need to care about what she feels or thinks about you. She’s just one person in this world who thinks that; don’t let this single opinion ruin your life. I’m sure there are many people in the world who would beg to differ – including yourself. What others think of you it’s NOT your responsability. What you think of yourself is much more important. Don’t let it get to you. You will be fine 🙂

Laurel Peterson,

I suppose the same goes for you. Don’t let your parents opinion on you define who you are. They are people and people have flaws. If they don’t want to have a relationship with you, please don’t make it stop you from relating with other people, people who could care for you much more than they could. Understand their reasons, forgive them and move on. Therapy may help you “resolve your issues” with them without necessarily talking to them. You will be fine 🙂