Me and my ex first met via social media. She was everything I could ever begin to imagine and I thought I would spend the rest of my life with her. A few weeks into the relationship I found out she was exchanging flirty and sexual messages with her ex girlfriend and it crushed me. I agreed to forgive her and we tried to work through it again. During the next couple of months I found out she was talking to her again and arranging to meet up, not only her, but other girls too. It wasn’t until we broke up I found out she had visited her ex and slept with her while I was in hospital due to a mental health breakdown. I was inconsolable and I decided to cut off all contact as it was a very negative and toxic relationship.

A few weeks later I met my current girlfriend through mutual friends. Again, I fell madly in love and was reassured that this relationship was going to be nothing like my last. I was happy until a month in I found out she was also messaging her ex behind my back and was telling her how she cant move on and shes the one she wants to be with. I forgave her, stupidly thinking everyone deserves a second chance and then found out she was searching her exes social media profiles. Around this time deep feelings I had buried away resurfaced for my ex and I realized I missed her. I contacted my ex and told her my feelings, she said she felt the same and If I wanted to, we could try again. I know this was wrong of me, I regretted it and knew it was a mistake and I decided not to tell my girlfriend because she was the one I wanted to be with. My girlfriend left for her holidays and these feelings for my ex resurfaced and I found myself falling back into another conversation with my ex.

I love my current girlfriend, she gives me everything that my last relationship didn’t and I know she/this relationship is good for me. However, I’m now stuck. Do I tell her about the conversation with my ex? Do I leave my current girlfriend and try and rekindle things with my ex, or do I make a promise to myself and move on from my ex once and for all?