Hi. I’m writing because I need some advice about a long distance relationship I’m in. I have been with this man for 2 years and he’s very special to me. When he’s around I’m satisfied. Our careers pose a problem. I have 2 months off in the summer where he is away for 5 months for his job at the same time. It really bums me out not having him around especially with all the free time I have. Because he is so busy with work our communication is limited. I’m lucky if I get to face time once a week. I’m just getting really sad about it. I’ve told him I feel like I’m getting the bare minimum. He makes me feel great when present but with the distant he’s not so good. He’s verbalized he wants to help and is trying to balance work and me, but…. I’m still feeling lonely. Advice?
This topic was modified 6 years, 2 months ago by Sassypants.
Options: He quitting his job and/ or changing his work schedule. You quitting your job/ changing your job schedule. Or you accepting the relationship as it is. What are your thoughts about these three options?
Haha Anita, you put it so simply. I’m not quitting my job and either is he. So it is what it is. It’s easy when I’m busy, but I have a lot of down time now so it gets hard. I’ve put on my “big girls pants” for a while but they have seemed to fallen off. 🙁 The hardest part of being with him is this, when we’re together it’s easy. I’m just thinking ahead too if I end up with him, I’ll be like a military wife, a single mom for half the year. I’m going to stick it out and see what happens. I hope it’s worth it.
You made your decision to stick it out and hope it is worth it. Yes, there are no guarantees in life, so based on the information you have, it seems to me that having such hope is not unreasonable. I wonder what military wives do to deal with this lifestyle- there are probably websites or support groups for military wives that you can read and learn from?