October 25, 2019 at 3:30 am #319639
I recently turned 25 and somehow suddenly after it I have reached my saturation point or you may also call it rock bottom. I also recently left my job because it wasn’t giving me any joy and I wasn’t growing at all. I am at home these days and rather than using this opportunity to learn new skills I am constantly sleeping, and wasting my time. There are days I find it so difficult to even get up from my bed. I am searching for new job opportunities but i can’t find anything that sparks joy.
I know I should be using this free time at my hand but I have lost all passions in life. I feel life is so pointless, I don’t feel like celebrating, going out or meeting friends. I feel I am not living my authentic wholesome life!
How should I break this mind block and find a passion to grow again?
I know I have it but it’s so hard to channel it.October 25, 2019 at 9:09 am #319677
You wrote in a reply to another member recently: “What I learned over the years- that you have to be your Authentic Wholesome Self. This means you should be able to communicate how you are feeling”.
You left your job and you spend a lot of time at home. Work was not joyful (“it wasn’t giving me any joy and I wasn’t growing at all”), but it provided you with a daily routine, and now that routine is gone.
If you live at home with a parent or parents and as a child you were not able to be your authentic wholesome self with them, I imagine this is still the case. Are you living with your parents?
anitaOctober 25, 2019 at 10:46 am #319687PeterParticipant
I suspect many of us on this forum have found ourselves experiencing this loss of passion at one time or another. It’s a thought spot to be in. Such experiences can also be linked to depression so talking to someone could be helpful.
You write about looking for that job that spark joy. I don’t think you can know what will spark joy unless you’re in it. The good news is that you’re at a point where you don’t have anything to lose so all doors are possibilities. To find what your looking for you have to engage with life. A place to start may be in dropping the should s that seem to be dominating your internal dialog. Should’s suck the life out of life
Joy is an emotion that comes as a surprise, not so much as something we create or can cling to. Only by engaging with Life can we be surprised by Joy. Hope is the art of being passive as not forcing things, while active as being ready to pounce when possibilities present themselves. You can lean on this type of hope.
Be kind to your self. Everything starts by taking a step.
You may enjoy the movie ‘Brittany runs a marathon’
October 25, 2019 at 7:03 pm #319749
- This reply was modified 9 months, 2 weeks ago by Peter.
“Joy is an emotion that comes as a surprise, not so much as something we create or can cling to. Only by engaging with Life can we be surprised by Joy. Hope is the art of being passive as not forcing things, while active as being ready to pounce when possibilities present themselves. You can lean on this type of hope” These lines are so powerful and inspiring!! I will write em down on a sticky note and put it in my work desk <3
Yes there are lot of should statements I engage in and I believe they bring up many negative thoughts. Maybe somewhere I feel disappointed in myself and pull myself down with my own expectations.
I will definitely watch the movie and let you know my thoughts on it 🙂
Thank you for your wonderful advice !!October 26, 2019 at 4:13 am #319747
@anita I agree the routine is disturbed. Yes, I live with my parents but I feel I am living my wholesome self with them. I am very communicative with them ( I try to). But, I don’t tell them if I am going through tough times in terms of mental health as I don’t want them to worry.
I am scared that once I get into a job what if it’s again not right for me and I just don’t want to keep switching jobs. I suppose I am carrying past baggage of fear and guilt.October 26, 2019 at 7:11 am #319815
Peter made an excellent point and your quote of what he posted is worth repeating once again: “Joy is an emotion that comes as a surprise, not.. something we create or can cling to.”
You wrote in your original post: “I am searching for new job opportunities but I can’t find anything that sparks joy”. Better not evaluate this or that job possibility based on its joy-sparking quality, especially when you are depressed!
Better look for a job based on what you most need in a job, for example: a particular income and benefits, a work environment, such as working in your own office vs in a room with others, and so forth.
“How should I break this mind block and find a passion to grow again?”-
-my answer: abandon your search for joy or passion, search for a job that fits your practical needs, a job that has some interest in it for you- an interest, not joy or passion. In addition to practicality, become interested in life, curious, explore, try this and that, experiment.
I suggest starting a daily routine for yourself that will include a certain wake up time, exercise, time looking for work, etc.
October 26, 2019 at 11:07 pm #319951
- This reply was modified 9 months, 1 week ago by anita.
I agree with you I need to consider practical factors while searching for a job. This might give a structure to my search, also yes I do try to maintain a daily routine but every now and then I fall into the trap of negative thinking and ultimately gets so exhausted that end up giving up.
Thank you for taking time out and advising me. I think this will give me a direction in my journey of job search.
I will keep you posted once I land a job 🙂October 27, 2019 at 8:20 am #320001
You are welcome to post anytime, not only after you land a job. A daily routine is so very important for anyone, especially when we are anxious and depressed. Looking forward to read from you again.