Hi, I need some advice as I am really new to making friends as an adult.

I previously tried to ask a co-worker out on a date but was rejected but she said she wanted to be friends instead, it was very amicable, and after a few days thinking about whether or not I could get over my initial attraction I decided I thought I could and said to her I did want to be friends, she said to me that she leads a busy life and I accepted this.

We have had coffee round her house on four occasions, she has a young kid and is generally very busy, its been hard to organise time to see each other as I knew it would, but we have shared a lot about ourselves which I wouldn’t normally do and I enjoy her company and I think she feels the same way about our new friendship, and I am over my initial attraction which im happy about.

I am a bit stuck as to how to go about kindling the friendship because she is genuinely busy and I don’t want to be always asking her if she is free and annoy her, bare in mind it has been only me asking which does make me hesitate to ask in fear perhaps this isn’t something she wants but she has assured me that its not.

I am thinking about asking her up front about if she would like to meet for coffee once a month and make it a regular thing, we would likely meet round hers so she doesn’t need a babysitter, and if she or I cant meet up that month then no worries.

Is this a good idea, any tips and do friendships take hold when you don’t see each other that often?

Thanks!