Hello Alexa,

I think its fair to say that anyone would have the same worries as you do if they were in your situation. I recently moved for the first time away from home at 26 to a completely new state where I didn’t know a single person, and trust me when I tell you, at my age it was no easier. That being said, please remember that it takes time to form new friendships regardless of your age. This is a process that will take time, but it is not an impossibility at 53 or at 26. Focus on the comfort you are bringing to your daughter, I miss my mom constantly and she’s thousands of miles away from me, with my dog. You are so lucky to have your dog and daughter near you and they will help your transition more than I can express. You will meet people at work, your neighbors, your daughters friends, other people who may walk their dogs, at a community center etc. Remain positive and open to the new experience your move is bringing you, you are braver than you think! Your current town will always be there for you to visit. Focus on positive thoughts as much as you can, because the more you dwell on missing certain places and things, the less energy you will have in becoming fully immersed and engaged in your new circumstances.  The unknown can be daunting, but please don’t put limits on your ability to adjust and become comfortable in new surroundings. Be patient with the process and focus your energy on learning about your new home, rather than grieving about the one you are leaving.

I also would like to say I think you should just take the cat, what the landlord doesn’t know wont hurt them, and animals are a huge support system for us humans when we go through change, if at all possible, do what makes you happy and just bring your kitty along for the adventure. After all she is already yours in all things but on paper.

Hi Alexa,

I understand your worries. When I left my town I kept looking at street signs and little things like that and romanticising them. According to the internet (lol!) it takes about 2 years to feel comfortable/happy in a new place. I think this transition will be very hard for you because A. It doesn’t sound like you want to do it, even though there are a lot of good things going that way and B. Your cat and all your neighbours and everyone else you know.  I don’t know the relationship with your daughter but I believe family has a special tie in your life that can bring you the most happiness and closeness to others. That’s something you don’t want to miss out on.

I think moving will all and all better your life but you will have to realise that you will be sad, lonely and feel regretful about your decision but just give it time and hopefully being aware of these feelings will help you see them and not give into them as much.

Age is just a number! It may be time for a new adventure!