Happi, although Anita is very good with her words and is an excellent counselor, I feel like saying something to you… when someone hurts you again and again, he is not your friend anymore. I know you love him and although you want help, your mind keeps building defenses in his favour. I just want you to analyse this that is he really back for you or is he back only for the security of a relationship? Is he treating you like an option in his life while he goes on searching for an ideal woman in his life.

He WAS your friend. You believed in him, you were true in your approach but when you broke up, he was free. Men usually get into deep dating cycles or plunge into work to forget someone they actually cared about. that explains the physical intimacy so soon, but after that he did not choose to tell you because he knew that it would drive you away… and thus you would not be an option anymore. Even if he has serious feelings for you, you should have been a mountain that he needed to climb in order to have you back and not be an ice cube which melted easily on the first touch of warm feelings.

The reason you are having difficulty to leave him behind is that you don’t have many friends…. well i am a friend. I am Indian too. And trust me if i make a friend, i am there for them. You don’t need someone who is not treating you like a queen, which my friend you are!!!

I have been broken really bad too but trust me on this very early on i had told him that i don’t like people shouting on me, despite that he did shout once, i had ended the call, he realised his mistake and never yelled on me ever again.

Your parents don’t know about him, my parents, his mother, everyone knew about us, it was going fine, my parents wanted us to get engaged after two years at maximum, he knew that and was fine with it. one fine day he left and also with what felt like pseudo reasons… Yes i still love him too and have no idea what to do to ease the pain but even then I have started giving myself the importance and the love i deserve.  Even i have those palpitations and the chest pain and left arm aches but then i have decided that it is not because of him, it is because in the time i spent mourning over him, i stopped exercising.

that’s your case too, come on Indian food is heavy and oily and extremely tasty.

I found a new love, other than my old love for prawns and fish, this love is solo travel. Rome is a very nice place for young women to travel alone. And i am focusing my strength on earning through my writing job and studying to pursue a master’s degree. And trust me, sometimes people need to miss you, you know what you are made of to give you respect.

never love someone who does not respect you! I know this because i had two brief relationships during colleges and although both left since one wanted to focus on his game(was a sportsman) and another found TRUE love, both came back to me asking me to get back with them WHEN i was content with loving myself.

I don’t know about you but i am a girl who kind of forgets her worth when she falls for someone….tell me about it.. your new Friend 🙂