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  • March 14, 2017 at 1:50 pm #139487
    Anonymous
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    Hey everyone.  Sorry to be posting a lot, and it seems like silly things when I really think about it.

    I know everyone talks about the ‘no contact’ rule when it comes to break ups, and I’m trying my best to do that, or to keep contact at a very minimum.  It’s my exes birthday this weekend, and I’m not sure whether I should wish him a happy birthday, or take him out or do nothing.

    We did break up last year for about a month last year and during that time it was my birthday and he didnt wish me a happy or make it up to me when we got back together.

    I know people will say, well he didn’t so you shouldn’t either.  However, that’s not my nature, and I feel like I cant not say it.  But I dont want to seem weak, or like he thinks I want him back.

    Again, I know this seems silly and insignificant, but for some reason it’s been bugging me.

    March 14, 2017 at 2:25 pm #139489
    Inky
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    Hi Heartbrokengurl,

    I know this is hard, but don’t wish him happy birthday. If he brings it up, of course, say, “Happy birthday!” but don’t go out of your way. An ex is an ex for a reason. And an ex shouldn’t be a good friend in an active way. You don’t want to give him hope that you’ll get back together and you also don’t want to be a downer either. And yes, an ex contacting you on your birthday is a bummer.

    Good Luck,

    Inky

     

    March 14, 2017 at 8:09 pm #139533
    Anonymous
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    Dear heartbrokengurl:

    Post anytime you want to!

    Not a good idea, says I. Send him a happy birthday thought, if you must, if your nature insists… but not a real message.

    anita

    March 15, 2017 at 10:10 am #139585
    Moose
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    I was married 4 days shy of 25 years… we’d been together for 27. She’d been having an affair with a coworker (she confessed to the adultery, and when I responded “I love you. I forgive you. Lets work this out.” she said “I’ve done nothing to be forgiven for.”)… We’ve now been divorced for nearly 2 and a half years… my ex wife (remarried to her “coworker” over 2 years ago) sent me a text 2 weeks before I remarried in October… it said “I love you.”… I didn’t respond… just has I didn’t respond to the 15 texts before over the previous summer.
    My birthday was 3 weeks ago, and while I was out having lunch with me wife, I get a text… from the ex… I don’t know how to make it more clear to her that I don’t want to be “friends”… after all, what good is a “friend” who will lie to you, and steal from you, and break your heart?
    She should have thought about how much she would miss me before she “acted on impulse”…
    Yeah, do yourself a favor… don’t text him. He’s part of the past… and he’s there in your past for a reason.
    Good luck!

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