Hi Quizzcal,

I don’t have a solution at the moment, but thought would write to support you.It is very disheartening when people begin spreading their ‘opinions’ as if they are qualified to do so.

I would mention this issue to your psychologist as well.

• How it bothers you,
• What to do about it /or how to mange it.

Do not be surprised if your colleague HAS narcissistic tendencies – narcs are into projection, big time! The fact that she has tends to diagnose others speaks to her own flaws. A healthy, stable individual won’t have the need to label others – that’s almost like having to distract oneself by shifting attention to another’s (perceived) issues.

Observe those who are quick to believe the mischief and slander- not because they are “bad” but also simplistic &/or uninformed. They are already ‘under the bus’ – they just don’t realize it as yet, as these things speak to the character (or lack thereof) of your colleague.

You need to find ways to become ‘immune’ to the behaviour and also call her to account if she overdoes it.

Continue working on your health – physical & mental, and activities that you enjoy because these people WILL wear you down with their ‘drama.’

I hope to hear from you later on.

Best!!