June 13, 2021 at 12:11 pm #381395QuizzicalParticipant
To the best of my knowledge I am not a narcissist. However, in my workplace I have a colleague who dishes out psychiatric diagnoses on co-workers without any qualifications to do so(she teaches drama). Her pet diagnosis is narcissism. I have revealed to her about my childhood( I was punished with silence, sent across Europe alone as a 9-yr-old). I am seeing a psychologist and asked if she thinks I am a narcissist . First she explained what a narcissist is and then she explained that I am not one -I have self-worth and know who I am, what I want and need. But my colleague gives me the notion she thinks I am one and it disturbs me as I do it want her to spread that about me. It worries me and I waste time and energy on it. What to do?can anyone advise me? Thank you in advance.June 13, 2021 at 1:48 pm #381411anitaParticipant
Lots of people favorite pet diagnosis (or better say, favorite name calling) is Narcissist. If and when your work colleague tells other colleagues that you are (an alleged) narcissist, they probably heard her in the past calling other people narcissists (her family members, friends, neighbors, etc.), and so, they figure perhaps that it is only time before she calls them narcissists as well!
anitaJune 13, 2021 at 2:21 pm #381412QuizzicalParticipant
Thank you for taking the time to answer my post. Your analysis is valuable to me and I Will beat in mind what you have written – it feels reassuring.
QuizzicalJune 13, 2021 at 2:35 pm #381413anitaParticipant
You are welcome, Quizzical. Post again whenever you want to, on any topic., and I will be glad to reply to you.
anitaJune 15, 2021 at 6:39 pm #381521wigParticipant
I don’t have a solution at the moment, but thought would write to support you.It is very disheartening when people begin spreading their ‘opinions’ as if they are qualified to do so.
I would mention this issue to your psychologist as well.
- How it bothers you,
- What to do about it /or how to mange it.
Do not be surprised if your colleague HAS narcissistic tendencies – narcs are into projection, big time! The fact that she has tends to diagnose others speaks to her own flaws. A healthy, stable individual won’t have the need to label others – that’s almost like having to distract oneself by shifting attention to another’s (perceived) issues.
Observe those who are quick to believe the mischief and slander- not because they are “bad” but also simplistic &/or uninformed. They are already ‘under the bus’ – they just don’t realize it as yet, as these things speak to the character (or lack thereof) of your colleague.
You need to find ways to become ‘immune’ to the behaviour and also call her to account if she overdoes it.
Continue working on your health – physical & mental, and activities that you enjoy because these people WILL wear you down with their ‘drama.’
I hope to hear from you later on.