My gf and I just entered a long distance relationship after being together over 4 years. Things have not been going well for either of us and we had a discussion about it recently. She says it has become a task to find time to talk with me due to her work etc and this has caused her stress. My issues are that she has done some things to me that she would absolutely not accept and there are some serious double standards that I have had to deal with. An example of this would be her getting upset with me for not texting her all day but it is perfectly acceptable for her to go MIA for an entire weekend partying / working. My major problem is that she says she has no time and that its a task to talk to me (her bf of 4 years) yet she has no problem finding time for her new social circle (people she has known for months). I flat out asked her this question why it is such an inconvenience for her to make time for ppl outside her brand new social circle (as she also told me she rarely talks to her best friends since she has been there and she is always complaining how her family is msg’ing her) and her response was that because these people ‘were right there’. She addmitted to me that she puts in way more of her free time and effort into her new social circle than she has our relationship since it became long distance.

So basically our problem came down to me not being ‘right there’ and this led her to feeling like it is a task to keep up with the relationship. We both have never done a long distance relationship before so I can’t blame her for not knowing what to expect, but how could she possibly not have known that I was not going to be ‘right there’ and that it would probably take some extra work (that she is obv not willing to put in I guess). We agreed to have another discussion to try and find a way to get on the same page and make this work but I am unsure if I should even give it another chance with what Ive heard from her, it seems like she has some issues if she truly gets so caught up in new things that due to somebody not being ‘right there’ they are no longer worth as much to talk to as somebody who is ‘right there’. I don’t know if that problem could even be fixed. Thanks for reading my post and any advice is much appreciated.