Hi all,

So recently I have started seeing a man who is about ten years older, has children and lives a couple of hours away in a small town. He is definitely separated from his ex but I have a few niggles because she still wants them to be together and she recently had a baby that she conceived just before they broke up. I do not think he would cheat on me with her but a friend who used to live in that town told me that there was gossip that he cheated on her a lot. My only ex cheated on me and my dad always cheated on mum too so I am a bit paranoid- I have also cheated in the past but would never do that now that I am actually ready for a relationship- and said to him that what he does is up to him just to tell me the truth. So I am wondering what other peoples thoughts are on whether I should be concerned. I am not as concerned with cheating more so if there is lying. My last relationship was extremely dysfunctional and codependent so I find it hard to figure what is ‘normal’ relationship behavior.

Any advice much appreciated unless its about gardening