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March 6, 2014 at 1:00 pm #52402MarcParticipant
I just ended things with my partner of 6.5 years and I really could use some advice on how to move on from this. We met when we were both 23 and at very different places in our lives. From the very beginning we had an intense relationship consisting of fighting, making up, breaking up, and repeating the cycle numerous times. Things have gotten so bad recently that our fights had escalated and we had been fighting in front of our families. His 30th birthday is a week and a half away and the plan was to travel to Florida with a few of his close friends and family. The thought of traveling with his family and us fighting was making me beyond anxious. I relayed my fears to him and he said if I just changed it would not happen. Truth be told we are both guilty and his failure to recognize this was the final straw. I told him I would move out the next day and he did not object. I packed up my clothes and my dog and left, going back to my parents house for the moment. I left our 3 bedroom apartment which we had furnished together and told him he could keep everything, 6 years of memories left behind.I have been thrust into a new world, all of my comforts and routine are gone. I know I made the right choice but I am sad and I would welcome any advice on how to move on from this major life change. Thanks
March 6, 2014 at 3:34 pm #52423beloveParticipantDear Marc,
My heart goes out to your my dear. Sending you hugs in spirit. Change is tough, yet you realized that it was needed and made the leap. Such strength, such courage I see in you. I can so much relate to this. Being with someone for 6.5 years, you of course had some deep attachment, you had your routines, you had done so many things together. You built your life around this person. This new journey is a tough journey but it’s a liberating one. You seem to know yourself. And that’s a powerful realization. I was on this very path 3 yrs ago. I can share that it will get better. Embrace your feelings as they come. Don’t hide them behind distractions. Feel the pain, feel the loss, cry yourself to sleep. It’s all part of the healing process. Go out for long walks when you can pull enough motivations. It will help. Go out the some park, some open space somewhere and just allow yourself to be there. Feel the breeze on your face, the warm sun on body. Somehow, some way, nature is a great healer and she offers it for free. You will find yourself once again, that I know. Try something new you have not done in a while no matter how silly it might seem. Check out meetup.com when you want to hang with some people. Check out local yoga studio if you want to give it a try. Just try something – walk, swim, dance, yoga, … We tend to think it’s not our thing, but we need to give it a try, e.g. I never understood how people could be so dedicated with yoga practice. But once I gave it a try, I’ve been practicing since. Listen to uplifting songs. I love klove radio. You feel like you can connect with people from listening to it. You will find your songs, your rhythm again, that I know. It just takes some time, some dedication, some perseverance, some strength, which I see you have in you. Hugs to you dear Marc. Namaste! -
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