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    Rebecca
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    So, at my job I have to work every other weekend. There’s people who only work the weekends, and they are very cliquey. I had a disagreement with someone a few months ago and it’s like the whole clique has turned against me. There’s one guy in particular who I feel like makes an effort to exclude me and every time we work together, he makes a point to say hello/ goodbye to everyone except me. If I’m having a conversation with a coworker he will butt in and purposely leave me out of the conversation (that’s what it feels like). My natural reaction is to just ignore him, not speak to him, not say hello to him.. Does anyone think I have a better option of how to react? I only have to work 2 weekends a month, so I tell myself to be lucky I don’t have to see these people more often, but I still DREAD working my weekends.

    #126896
    Anonymous
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    Dear Rebecca:

    I see the behavior of the weekend co worker that you described as subtle bullying: he is trying to make you feel bad and he succeeded- you are feeling dread working the weekends. I would treat it as any other bullying activity practiced by a bully, and that is to assert myself with him. Tell him you see what he is doing, trying to make you feel badly by purposefully excluding you. Best refer to the most recent behavior, right after he has done it. Say: I see what you just did, you said goodbye to everyone but not to me. I wish you didn’t try to hurt me, as you’ve been doing.

    There may be a better way to assert yourself with his subtle bully, but asserting yourself somehow is a good idea, I believe.

    anita

    #126905
    Rebecca
    Participant

    But I don’t understand why people bully me.. I feel like I am such an easy person to get along with and a hard worker.. do you think it’s because these people perceive me as being weak/easily intimidated? I just got pulled into my managers office because a girl I work with is making up stuff about me not doing my job. I just don’t understand :'(

    #126906
    Anonymous
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    Dear Rebecca:

    Reading your post above I remembered what I saw in a recent Country Fair- there was an exhibit of a few young pigs- three of them were grey or brown (I don’t remember) and one was white. The three grey pigs were bullying the white one non-stop. I wanted to get in there and slap the three silly. I was so annoyed. They kept poking the white one who was doing nothing to them but trying to get away. They kept at it, poking and pushing him.

    Visibly clear, the one bullied was the white one, the different one, the one that stood out. Possibly, in your case, you are the empathetic worker, the one that stands out. Do you think that is the reason?

    anita

    #126977
    Alien incident47
    Participant

    What he is trying to do get you to argue with him and then turn around and act innocent as if you are the being a bully . Do not engage him in any way and continue to ignore him . But do make note and write down events that will follow or things said around him or between you two . He is known as a “serial provoker” look it up or Google it . Do not play his game . When it comes to saying hello or good by , I will say ” hello everyone ” or ” see you all later ” , that way I included every one and know one can say I’m leaving them out or single them out which is probably telling others that is what you are doing to him , good luck

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