Hello all,

I am 24 years old will be 25 at the end of the year I have a babygirl who is 1 year old. I sometimes struggling with finding the right parenting style while her dad is just kind of winging it. We are currently in the process of separating however he is currently a stay at home father and although he’s great he says I “baby” her too much. For example, if she gets hurt I add onto the hysterical cries etc… I mean she’s a baby still and although I want her to have strength and learn that she’s going to hurt herself sometime I also want to comfort her and know that she is protected and safe instead of showing “tough love” all of the time. I sometimes find myself sitting worrying about how she’s going to navigate through life as well as how I’m going to teach her certain things. I was a stay at home mother for 18 months and during that time I had so much fun teaching her things. I have horrible anxiety when it comes to leaving her with anyone even her dad but I’m adjusting it could be related to childhood trauma and I struggled having a voice or telling my mom when I was uncomfortable or someone harmed me. I’m also trying to break generational curses, cycles, and trauma so I’ve stayed away from family so that I don’t receive unwanted opinions however, I have a pretty large family but I don’t feel like I’ve had the best role models when it comes to parenting. I understand that most parents do what they can or have been taught but I just want the best (like any other parent does) without my daughter have to grow up recovering from any trauma.