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  • November 1, 2016 at 9:46 pm #119404
    Marc
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    No one is bothering me anymore, but this situation just ended in March. People have wondered why I’m still occupied with early adolescent concerns, but it’s just that some people in my recent past kept me in such a situation by imitating some other people from when I was younger. Also, I used to assume my sadness would end the moment I was no longer forced to be with them, but that was not the case.

    November 2, 2016 at 3:36 am #119413
    Marc
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    Anyone here?

    November 2, 2016 at 8:40 am #119424
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear aja675:

    I don’t understand your post: what situation ended in March?

    And what “early adolescent concerns” are you referring to?

    anita

    November 3, 2016 at 1:28 am #119472
    Marc
    Participant

    By ”early adolescent concerns,” I’m referring to caring about peer pressure and what other people say. I mean, cursing at the wind about how other people hurt you and how they make you angry makes you look immature to the rest of the world.

    November 3, 2016 at 3:08 am #119474
    Nina Sakura
    Participant

    Dear aja675,

    I don’t know what your situation is really so I can’t say much without more context except sometimes shitty things happen and we have to let them go. The more we hold on to the anger, the more we hurt ourselves. The more we wish the past would change, the less we can move forward with our present life and fail to appreciate the possibility of positive changes. This is not to say it’s bad to feel pain and remorse – or its childish in some way, more like for our own well being, letting go is important because we just can’t change what happened.

    I am wondering though, what is your biggest source of anger?

    Regards,
    Nina

    November 3, 2016 at 3:40 am #119475
    Marc
    Participant

    My anger is about how I was made fun of even when I was no longer young enough that I could blame childish stupidity for my peers’ meanness. (Also, this was the situation which ended in March.) There’s anger coming from when I was younger too, especially since I’ve seen younger people who seem so smart, wise, and sane for their age and I believe I could have been like that if only went to a different school unlike the ratchet and rundown one I used to go too.

    November 3, 2016 at 4:38 am #119481
    Marc
    Participant

    *to.

    November 3, 2016 at 9:44 am #119563
    Anonymous
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    Dear aja675:

    As I understand it you were made fun of in school, a “ratchet and rundown” school. And you were very hurt by the way you were mistreated there by peers. You are no longer in that school since March. You thought you would feel better for not attending that school anymore and not being made fun of, but you are not feeling better.
    (“I used to assume my sadness would end the moment I was no longer forced to be with them, but that was not the case.”)

    This is because you were injured there, a wound created, and that wound is still bleeding.

    Question is: how do you stop the bleeding/ How do you heal that wound?

    Any ideas?

    anita

    November 4, 2016 at 2:50 am #119588
    Marc
    Participant

    I did not make the timeline of my past all that clear. There were three or four groups of people from different times who traumatized me.

    November 4, 2016 at 7:47 am #119600
    Marc
    Participant

    Because of this seven-year situation, I still have problems in thinking of myself as smart, even though I used to be thought of as smart during childhood.

    November 4, 2016 at 8:08 am #119603
    Anonymous
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    Dear aja675:

    You were bullied, mistreated by 3-4 groups of people over seven years. Did I understand correctly? Those are the seven years you were referring to regarding “today’s grade schoolers were babies,” I think.

    How old are you, approximately (almost twenty? early twenties?) Is English your first or second language? Do you live with your parents?

    Will you share more about the nature of the mistreatment you suffered: what did those 3-4 groups of people say and do to you?

    anita

    November 5, 2016 at 6:01 pm #119708
    Marc
    Participant

    I don’t have much in the way of any frame of reference for true happiness that isn’t from my childhood which was a lot more peaceful than my youth.

    • This reply was modified 7 years, 5 months ago by Marc.
    November 6, 2016 at 7:57 pm #119799
    Marc
    Participant

    What made me vulnerable during my youth was the fact that I had a different childhood compared to most people in my country.

    November 6, 2016 at 8:12 pm #119802
    Anonymous
    Guest

    Dear aja675:

    Do you have a question? If you do, please ask it.

    I asked you a few questions in my last post to you, but you didn’t answer.

    anita

    November 9, 2016 at 4:54 am #119977
    Marc
    Participant

    Let me just say you guessed a lot about me.

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