Dear Gaurav Bisht:

You feel guilt for the life that started in her uterus, a life that was put to an end. You also feel guilt for her suffering physically, mentally because of the abortion. And you feel guilty, I understand, for not being able to make her feel better (because you are separated). You feel guilty when thinking about being in a relationship with a different woman, in your future.

I would like to offer you a bit of a math exercise that I will be doing here, very simple math. Let me know if you agree with it (I may be wrong in my calculations).

For the fact that you and her had a sexual relationship, your responsibility is 50%, hers is 50%.

For the fact that she got pregnant, that there was a mistake in protection from it, your responsibility is 50%, hers is 50%.

For the fact that she attended an abortion, your responsibility is at the most 50%, hers is at least 50%.

For the fact that your relationship has been terminated, your responsibility is 0%, hers is 100%.

anita

You are welcome, Gaurav Bisht. I hope life gets easier and more pleasant for you soon enough.

anita