Dear starryskies:

You are very welcome and thank you for your offer. Here is my comment regarding a sentence  you wrote in your post before last: “It happens when I  feel happy and care free- I start  to worry and think that  I don’t  deserve to be happy because of what I did”.

What happens is that  you have a belief, a core belief, one  formed early  in your life, that you are a  bad person, and so, you don’t deserve to be  happy. There is much distress in this core belief.

This core belief and the distress involved in it was formed  before the incident, the “what  I did”. Your logical brain is stuck in that incident as the proof or the evidence that you are a bad person.

Healing will need to include you exploring this core belief in the circumstances it  was  formed- who made you falsely believe that  you are a bad person, basically. If you would like to explore it  here some, please do.  Anytime.

anita

Dear starryskies:

Yes, it is possible to have more than one core beliefs. I don’t think anyone has just one. These core beliefs are beliefs that formed in our brain at an early age, before we were capable of evaluating them. These are things we were told about ourselves, about other people, about life, mostly by our parents/ caretakers. We did not stop to think, as young children, if what they taught us was correct, nor were we capable of doing so. We just believed what they said to be true.

anita