Dear Inky:

Best of Inky’s humor, right here. Azz, of course you’ll call him Azz. And of course he ended up being a lawyer (this is so classically funny, is this for real?)

Your last post, the one I tried to answer but my post didn’t take because of website dysfunction was about the friend at the store who dropped you and suggested to have the deck card project with someone else, similar theme to this one.

I have no experience with group dynamics, really, too much to follow, who is related to whom and who did what to whom… In college, I had no friends there, not individuals and not a group. So I have nothing to offer here. And you posted no question, not here and not in the last thread before that, as far as I remember…?

anita

Dear Inky:

Azz had a problem with you, that is why he earned your title, Azz. He didn’t like you, looked at you like the group enemy, the yoko ono factor. That could very well be the reason you were excluded?

anita

Dear Inky:

I know the hurt of being excluded, not liked, not approved of. I very recently experienced someone openly expressing his dislike of me, not with words but by simply ignoring me, blatantly, clearly intentionally. It sure bothered me a whole lot. So I had my own experience recently with a heavy duty Azz and so, my sympathy. It made me think… we are always vulnerable, we never grow out of being hurt when disliked, rejected, excluded.

anita

Dear Inky:

Thank you. The Azz in my story expressed his anger, his hostility toward me in a very clear, loud way without a single word directed at me, without a look directed at me or any act but simply by exclusion. Quite powerful, as we are herd animals by origin and very much in practice, still. When a herd animal, like an elk, is excluded from the herd, it is a death sentence. Hence the evolutionary background of exclusion…

anita