Hi Cris

Their is another saying that ‘familiarity breeds contempt’ which I guess has some truth.  The longer we know someone the more likely we forget what attracted us to them and take things for granted. Hopefully that doesn’t lead to contempt.

I think partners having different interests is good for a relationship as long the differences are respected.  I also don’t think partners need to have everything in common or do everything together all the time.  Teaching a extrovert to enjoy quite time and a introvert to be more social at times is a positive.

In ballroom dancing when your learning to connect as a lead or follow the intention is to create space and fill it. Their is a difference in how the Lead creates space and fills it and how the Follow fills space and creates its but both are creating space and filling it. Creating and filling space at the same time may seem a impossibility but we do all the time. Doing so consciously allows our partner to ‘know’ were we are, where we are going, what shape is being created… Its a communication that isn’t a pull or push but a invitation. And so we dance.

A shared practice of mindfulness and gratitude could help in creating and filling space. I find it helpful sometimes to ask my self – ‘How am I creating space? How is the space being field? How am I filling space?

• This reply was modified 3 years, 6 months ago by Peter.

even though you both say you’re both different there may have been some attraction from the off.

but you said you’ve been married for 27 years. Maybe it’s just come to a head. I’m not saying to get a divorce, just one possible outcome here.