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Parents divorcing at the same time of a bad break up. No one to talk to, so alon

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  • January 20, 2016 at 3:28 am #93100
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    Yes, that is exactly how I feel, Anita. I’ve had very unhappy moments, but now that everything is not so good, I tend to remember only the good things. To be honest, because of this issue with his ex girlfriend, I had to look for therapy because I had such a hard time to deal with that (and as you see, it was so bad that I didn’t get over neither with therapy). So you are right. I should see it as a chance to be free of these things that brought me so much distress… ANd focus on what matters now. It does feel like the end of the world indeed, but you showed me the bright side. It can be freedom.

    January 20, 2016 at 8:17 am #93111
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    Dear cath:

    I am so glad reading your post above. I think you are on the right track, the right thinking. Always stick to what is real and you will be on the right track. Post anytime!

    anita

    January 21, 2016 at 4:44 pm #93255
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    I’ve had a rough day… I’ve cried all day. I miss him. I miss my mom. Just two blank spaces. People I love the most hurt me the most…
    I miss better days….

    January 22, 2016 at 8:03 am #93319
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    Dear cath:

    How often it is the truth, that people we love the most hurt us the most. As children we can’t help who we are born to, this is why so many children are victims. As we get older, through healing, we can make choices, with awareness, choices regarding who we love, see to it that who we choose to love, that there is a good chance it will turn out well.

    Choosing who we love according to WHO they are.

    I hope you are having a better day… or evening now. Please post here again…

    anita

    January 22, 2016 at 11:10 am #93362
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    I just hate that I keep seeing only the good parts of the relationship. I try so hard to see the bad, and then ok, I forget and feel relieved, but all of a sudden the nostalgia comes back again. Is this just the way it is? A cycle in which I’ll have to keep battling against these thoughts?

    January 22, 2016 at 3:50 pm #93376
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    I’ve decided to put everything out and to write. It feels so good!! I should have done that before!!

    January 22, 2016 at 7:40 pm #93386
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    Dear cath:

    You asked if it this is the way it is the post before last, remember the good and hurt even though there was enough bad… My answer is: only until you find love with someone else. No need to take so much bad just to get some good. Next man will not have an ex girlfriend in his life… you will see that you choose a man who is available to you and only to you…

    anita

    January 30, 2016 at 4:45 am #94297
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    Honestly I’m afraid I’m on the very edge of depression. Today for instance I can’t leave my bed. I have been unable to focus or to work. There isn’t a single day in which I don’t cry a lot… I hate being around people, I’m never happy around anything or anyone>… I’m hopeless…

    January 30, 2016 at 7:01 am #94299
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    I’m desperate here. Still havent left bed and i’m sleepy. when i try to sleep again, i have palpitations and images from boyfriends apartment where we would live together keep coming to my mind and i panick that i’m not there, that i was going to have a life there, and i don’t know how he is doing.
    whenever i see my mother, i have rage attacks. that i cant hold or stop. i’m very scared of what’s going on with me.

    January 30, 2016 at 9:18 am #94311
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    Dear cath:

    I see your despair. I see your feeling of hopelessness and desperation.

    Can you tell me about your relationship with your mother? How it has been when you were a child and on, and how it is now?

    anita

    January 30, 2016 at 3:56 pm #94354
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    Anita, it’s complex with my mother…
    I’ve always needed her approval. Nothing was ever enough. I have a hard time with self esteem because of her… She’d always put me down, and still does.

    January 30, 2016 at 4:19 pm #94357
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    I think today I’ve really hit rock bottom…

    January 30, 2016 at 7:35 pm #94373
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    Dear cath:

    I am so sorry you hit rock bottom. No wonder you are having such a hard time living with a person who used to and still, currently, puts you down.

    And part of your move back to your parents’ house was to support the woman who…still puts you down?

    Hope soon enough you will move out of that house and insist that the people you do choose to be with will be those that will respect you.

    This is not a good place for you to be in, one where you are disrespected. Move out, soon, please.

    And until then, please do post anytime!

    anita

    January 31, 2016 at 5:03 am #94381
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    Hi Anita,

    My mom has moved out… So it’s me, dad and brother here. But I have zero support, and it’s all i need. I’m clearly not doing well. And i don’t know how to deal with it by myself. Once again I’m stuck in my bed. I just need help from the people that are close to me…

    January 31, 2016 at 9:26 am #94390
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    Dear cath:

    To help my understanding: what happens when you reach out to your father and brother for support? What do you say and what do they say?

    When they see you spend a lot of time in bed, do they try to talk to you, to ask you what is going on? And if so, what do you tell them when they ask?

    anita

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