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Parents divorcing at the same time of a bad break up. No one to talk to, so alon

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  • January 31, 2016 at 5:34 pm #94508
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    They didn’t really realize. Dad is too concerned with his own issues with my mom, he is devastated. Truth is, I’m afraid to say I need help becuase my mother for instance would just think I need attention, and not that I’m indeed doing bad.

    January 31, 2016 at 5:54 pm #94519
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    Dear cath:

    Your mom would think you need attention… and that is something bad in her mind? Of course you need attention. You desperately need attention, caring attention, someone to ask how you are feeling, someone to listen to what you say, someone to care about you. It is very, very difficult to live without anyone who cares.

    What will you do then?

    anita

    February 1, 2016 at 2:54 pm #94611
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    Anita, it feels really good talking to you. Thank you!
    I feel somewhat guilty for the fact that I need attention… See, what’s going on here are my issues as a child with my mom that came out with all the divorce process. Not only she would put me down, but also she would not give me enough attention as a child… Even my dad recognizes it. I feel guilty if I make anyone feel worried. I have already been sick in November (stayed a few days in the hospital) and my mom could only blame me for that instead of some compassion. No one stayed with me in the hospital, except during nights.. and I thought I should just understand that people are busy instead of actually asking anyone to stay with me.
    So yes– at this point I definitely need attention. my inner child is crying inside.

    February 1, 2016 at 3:04 pm #94613
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    Dear cath:

    It is very sad that your inner child is crying.. she is so sad because she deserves attention and still, she doesn’t get it, the attention any child needs, any person of any age… but especially the child that you were.

    My hope is that some day soon you will have a loving relationship with a man who will pay attention to you, positive, compassionate attention.

    Until then, write here as much as you’d like, express your emotions, all your sadness, loneliness… do share and I will listen.

    anita

    February 2, 2016 at 3:36 pm #94760
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    For all the last times I posted here – I should have gone back to the first posts in this thread. They were all so beautiful and helpful.
    Anita, I have to say, you are amazing. Even at distance, with your kind words, you send some kind of…comfortable feeling. Your words feel almost like real hugs. Thank you. I should change my perspectives and start living better days. I will come back here to read all the kind words people wrote me.

    February 3, 2016 at 9:29 am #94810
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    Dear cath:

    Thank you for your kind words. And if you found this so far helpful, well.. there is more and more. The more you post, the more I will personally write to you. Keep posting, keep sharing, keep telling more…

    anita

    February 4, 2016 at 4:26 pm #95053
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    Anita,
    I wanted to give you a few updates. I have spoken to my mom. Told her that yes, I NEED ATTENTION, and that my mental health was spiralling down. She finally heard me and had compassion. And is willing to help me. So I feel much better now. I think in this side things will get better. At least I hope and now she knows the dimension of the whole issue with me.
    Now with ex-the only step I have to take, and am having a hard time to, is to forgive myself for having left him. This is holding me back so badly. I still feel regreat, though I rationally am well aware that he’s far from perfect…SO this is where I am at right now.

    February 4, 2016 at 4:35 pm #95055
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    In fact- as I wrote this- He blocked me from whatsapp.

    February 4, 2016 at 8:21 pm #95059
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    Dear cath:

    It must hurt to be blocked from whatsapp, a rejection. Sorry… Like you wrote above, forgive yourself for your part in the ending of that relationship. I hope your mother will be consistently compassionate toward you and remember that you need her positive attention on an ongoing basis. I sure hope so. Thank you for the update. Don’t give up. Sending a mental hug your way!

    anita

    February 6, 2016 at 1:50 am #95146
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    February 8, 2016 at 10:16 am #95265
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    Dear cath:

    How are you?

    anita

    February 10, 2016 at 12:51 pm #95712
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    Hi Anita,

    Thank you so much for asking. It is as if things moved forwards, and then backwards again, and then forward. To tell the truth, I’ve had a few panic attacks and went to a doctor and he confirmed. So it’s been rough…
    I was out of town – to the town where ex lives, but I was there with friends. I met him for a day and it was actually good at the time it happened…but now I feel sad again.
    Doctor told me to take medicines to control the panic..maybe i should just do it.
    My friends don’t listen to me anymore, they’ve lost their patience…so this is my best resource right now.

    February 10, 2016 at 1:38 pm #95724
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    Dear cath:

    Then do use this resource! What about your mother: you wrote she was supportive a little while back, is she no longer supportive? Has the communication ended? Sorry your friends lost their patience. And that you’ve had panic attacks.

    Please do post anytime and share and share … and share some more. The screen will take your words, as many as you write… this is only page 4 of this thread. I wonder how long a thread will go? Try and see…? No patience loss in high tech operations…

    anita

    February 10, 2016 at 4:24 pm #95728
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    Yes, she is being supportive now. She’s actually worried that I’m having these things. She didn’t expect that to happen…And she’s really trying to take care of me (but she’s so bad with attention that my brother is left apart, and that makes me so sad as well).
    Now next step is learn how to cope with panic and anxiety…
    But the BIGGEST challenge is still dealing with the brea up and accepting it…something so human, but why do we all struggle so hard with it?

    I’ll be writing, anita, all the time. thanks for being so patient!!!!

    February 10, 2016 at 7:05 pm #95745
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    Dear cath:

    I changed my middle name from Impatient to Patient. So yes, I am patient. Why do we all struggle so hard? I know the answer: because there is so little love in the world, this is what I believe!

    Till next post, do take care of yourself!

    anita

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