Dear Kane:

Thank you for sharing more of your thoughts so openly. It’s clear that you’ve been on a challenging journey, and your reflections show a deep understanding of your situation and your desires for change. Your insights in all your posts reveal a deep understanding of both your family dynamics and your own internal conflicts.

One thing I’ve observed in general, is how often families suffocate individuals within them. The needs of the family can become so overwhelming that they overshadow the personal growth and happiness of its members. It’s not uncommon for someone in your position to feel compelled to prioritize the family’s well-being over your own. This dynamic leads to a situation where personal aspirations and emotional needs are neglected. Here are some thoughts and suggestions that might help you as you move forward:

It’s important to acknowledge and validate your emotions. Your feelings of love, frustration, and fear, as well as your desire to find happiness in your family’s well-being, all your emotions valid and deserve recognition.

Understand that your intrinsic motivation to love and support your family comes from a place of deep care. It’s okay to feel proud of the selflessness and empathy you’ve shown. Understand that you can’t change much of your family’s dynamics, but you can manage your expectations and interactions with them. Focus on what you can control and let go of what you can’t.

Recognize the difference between being supportive of your family and taking on too much responsibility. It’s healthy to find a balance.

Also, recognize that your worth is not solely defined by your ability to support your family. You have intrinsic value as an individual.

Setting clear boundaries with your family is important. It’s okay to encourage them to take responsibility for their own lives while you focus on your own well-being.

Acknowledge and celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small they may seem. Each step forward is progress and deserves recognition.

Break down your ambitions into smaller, achievable goals. This can make the journey less overwhelming and provide a sense of accomplishment along the way.

Remember, it’s okay to prioritize yourself and your well-being. You have the strength and resilience to create the life you want. By acknowledging your progress, setting boundaries, and focusing on personal growth, you can work towards a more balanced and fulfilling life.

Wishing you all the best on your journey.

anita