Hello,

For the 2 years I knew him I understand he was honest and man with integrity.

But from day one he was sure that our relationship had no future but still we were in deep love. And this question of our future cropped up quite often in this 2 years and he always said a future is not possible. And suddenly one day he said that he is willing to take me to his parents. Hence I revealed that I had hidden my age from him. By now he knew I was divorced. But my age he didn’t know. After knowing the truth he has backed off completely.

Yes, we both are from India. Post revealing my age he has very strongly made up his mind to move on. I did try to reason it out to him why I hid my age. Since he had initially told me, we can’t be together I didn’t bother to tell him my age. Otherwise the relationship was going good.

I did put across this situation before few people to get a perspective and everyone said age shouldn’t have mattered if he really loved me.

Thanks for taking out time for me and analysing my situation and giving me a viewpoint.

If possible can you give me a detailed interpretation of the whole scenario since you will have a neutral view.

It’s not that he is intolerant to lies. His friend of many years seems to be a compulsive liar. He is still adjusting towards him.

Like I said he never wanted to be with me in the long run. But after spending time with me, he may have realised that he could be happy with me. He did foresee difficulties with us being together even if I was his age. But after revealing my age he changed his stance altogether. Btw his sister who recently got married is elder to her husband by few years.

He seems to have analysed that just him and me can be happy  but his family and friends won’t be happy that we are together.

Yes, that can be the case. He was always conflicted. On various occasions within these 2 years I tried to figure out if we have a future and his reply was always negative. Out of the blue he says he will take me to his parents for matrimony. I have faced situations wherein my life crisis was blown out of proportion just because I discussed it with people. So I prefered to keep things to myself. And since I didn’t see a future with him I didn’t reveal my facts either.

I just needed your viewpoint that’s all about the entire scenario. I am not the one to force him for anything. If I wanted I could have just walked off without telling him the truth. Leaving him to wonder what happend but I spoke the truth and then left it to him to decide the fate.

His mind changed after knowing me. And like I said if his sister could marry out of caste and to a guy younger to her then why couldn’t he atleast try.

And one more thing he kept repeating he liked being with me. Had I not been worth his time, he wouldn’t have come to a stage where he was ready to take me to his parents. I am little confused now that whether he really loved me or just liked me. Because we both gave each other 2 years. But in this 2 years he had a plan b I.e. to marry someone else when his parents force him to and I had no action plan. He was my priority but I can’t say the same about him.