Relations are the most important aspects of our existence in this world. Hence we place most of our expectations on them. In fact our whole existence depends on our relation with various aspects of this world. Here, however, I will limit myself to relation between two human beings. To address this common complaint we have to understand why and how relationships come into our life? Only then can we realize where we err in understanding them. Most of us think that relations come into our life to give us pleasure. We are conditioned to think in this manner. In fact we believe that the purpose of existence of this world is to give us pleasure and make us happy. Here lies the moot problem because of which we suffer and complain our entire life. We should know that various people come into our life in the form of relations due to our unfinished karmic cycles. We initiated some karmic transactions with those people in some other lifetime that remained unfinished; hence they have come in this lifetime to finish it. Their purpose of being in our life is not to give us pleasure but to teach us certain lessons which remained unlearned in previous lifetimes. They do it by bringing certain circumstances in our life. They are neither here to give us pleasure nor sorrow. They are just teachers on the path of the journey of our soul. Once we learn our lesson, their purpose of being in our life will be over.

If we understand this basic truth about relations then we won’t have so many complaints against them and against the individuals involved through them. It is the fundamental belief that relationships exist to only give us happiness that pushes people to only seek his / her own happiness. This is the primary reason why relationships have become a continuous tug of war and survival of the fittest. An honest evaluation of the state of our existing relationships and acceptance of their current state followed by action according to the need of the hour is the only way to derive maximum happiness.