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  • December 22, 2017 at 7:34 am #183269
    Therlie
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    Hi my dear friends,

    I wanted to ask you some advice. So Im currently pursuing a masters abroad, but Im going to quit it  because it doesn’t feel like the right programme for me. Also, I got accepted for a really really nice masters degree in my home country.. However, this means I have to move back… If I think about the masters I get so excited, but when I think about moving back to my country I feel a lot of negativity. The masters will take me 2 years…….I have lived in 3 other countries past few years (Belgium, Cambodia and England) and I know that I would like to work abroad too.. But for that work abroad it would be best to get a masters degree to have better opportunities.

    How can I appreciate my home country , how can I learn to ground down and not to feel so much negativity when Im home ? Im always afraid to get stuck there for some reason and feel like Im missing out on life and adventure. I would like to just be able to appreciate my family, the environment, and not to be so impatient to want to go away the whole time, but I really cannot ground :(. Please help!

     

    December 22, 2017 at 8:05 am #183271
    Anonymous
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    Dear Therlie:

    Maybe you will feel less stuck and distressed if you stayed in your hometown or home country during the two years of earing your master degree but not with your family. If you experienced that negativity in your home of origin, not returning to it can help. You can maybe rent a room in another home…?

    anita

    December 26, 2017 at 3:17 pm #183779
    DeJana
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    Dear Therlie,

     

    When I imagine going back to my home country I also feel a lot of negativity. There is a reason and mine is different then yours. But the fact is also that I have to spend few months in my home country next year and I am already thinking how to make that experience somehow enjoyable

     

     

    You say you have the feeling you are going to miss out on life and adventure. On the other side the masters degree is a good investment in your life. My thought is by staying in your home country you wont experience the type adventure you know from being in Cambodia, but you can try experiencing the other side of travelling and with it I mean hosting.

    I saw you are Dutch. Try hosting travellers from platforms like Couchsurfing. Learn to be a great host! Study your town and show foreigners around. Cook them traditional meals. Make them experience your country. You were the foreigner till now, now you are the local. Flip sides.

    Dutch universities are international, but a lot of foreign students never learn Dutch as they enroll in English programms. They spend years in the Dutch society without getting to know it. So enroll in programms like Study buddy and help some foreign students. Join the international club.

     

    This is my own plan for a person who is used to live abroad ,but has to spend some time in his home country. This way you will still have the international environment you are used to, but you will have a different perspective. I bet you had those moments in the countries you lived in when you had to ask for help about basic stuff everyone knew. And people made fun of you. Now you can see what the foreigners find bizzare in the Netherlands.

     

    I have the experience from both sides: as a foreigner I am thankfull for all the locals who helped me. And those great people who realised that a foreigner may feel lonely in the beginning and helped me out with it too 🙂

    One of my best experiences as a host was a girl from another continent who was for the first time in her life abroad. In a completely different culture with a language she didn’t understand. It made me think of my lifestyle a lot 🙂 So yes, it is possible to have international adventures in your home country! Plus you get bonus point for helping people out and you may learn something for your career abroad 🙂

     

    Also as Anita mentioned, if you never lived alone in your home country now is the time to rent a room on your own!

     

    Best wishes,

    Diyana

    December 28, 2017 at 3:03 am #184023
    Therlie
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    Dear Diyana,

    Thank you very much for your reply. I like your idea a lot. When I was still living in Holland, I was pursuing an international bachelor and being in this environment most definitely helped me. I will invest in it, thank you for your ideas. And I indeed should try to rent a room of my own..  and create a little more independence from my parents.

    Thank you a lot for your answer, much appreciated.

    Love

    December 28, 2017 at 3:04 am #184025
    Therlie
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    Yes, definitely true! I have to do that! Thank you for your reply 🙂

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