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  • #313277
    kate
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    My 3 year old son asked me to grow him a little sister. I told him my body has to be ready. But I honestly don’t know if I’ll be able to get pregnant. I am not up for IVF and fertility treatments. I’ve been to the doctor and I know my anatomy is normal, I’m ovulating on time every time, my husband’s sperm checks out. I don’t know why we’re not getting pregnant. I can be happy with one child, life is actually very good right now. But I always thought we would have a little girl, too.

    #313283
    anita
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    Dear kate:

    I wouldn’t feel pressured, if I was you, to get pregnant because your three year old asked you to “grow him a little sister”- as cute as it is that he asked for that. Maybe he saw a baby girl in the park or in preschool and he feels like having one of those in his home, similar to wanting a toy. It doesn’t mean he knows what he asked for, that he is aware of what it means to have a younger sibling (at least 4 years younger than him).

    How long has it been possible for you to get pregnant (not on birth control) and yet, you didn’t?

    anita

    #313425
    kate
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    I didn’t have a period until he was a year old, bc I was nursing round the clock. We started trying once my period had started again, and that’s been 23 months now.

    #313441
    anita
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    Dear kate:

    Because you are okay with not having more children at this point, and you saw a doctor, found  out that your anatomy is fine, that you ovulate on time, and your husband’s sperm is normal, why not let it be as it is. Revisit the situation in a couple of years. Focus on your life as-is.

    anita

    #314253
    kate
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    Thanks. I think that’s the best answer, too. Even though it’s hard sometimes.

    #314259
    anita
    Participant

    Dear kate:

    You are welcome. What is “hard sometimes”?

    anita

    #349840
    Sammy
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    You should do what you want, not what anyone tells you to do. If you ever want to get pregnant faster in this day and age, you can take a course of pills that will help.

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