Hi,
I was on here earlier talking about making a mistake and losing out on meeting with a woman that I seemed to have a great connection with. I’m starting to feel like I’m just not worth the time and effort anymore.
I know it’s not productive to think this way but the longer it becomes since my marriage ended (it has been over 4 years now) it is getting harder to see any hope that a relationship will happen again.

I had an emotionally draining end to my marriage. I was cheated on by my ex spouse for an extended period until I figured it out. Then I figured out why I was being run down on by her everyday for that period of time. She was thinking if she personally attacked me enough then I would eventually leave her,and then she would look like the suffering wife that found love again with the other scumbag cheater.
It didn’t work because I just chose to take the abuse and struggle to figure out what was wrong,and try to find ways to fix it.
I’m glad that marriage is over. She is a horrible person and I only deal with her when it involves our kids.
What bothers me is that since that long-term relationship, I haven’t had another one. I’ve tried and as I get older (I’m 44) I start to wonder if someone will want me again.
I’m not unattractive and I don’t look my age. I don’t even feel as old as I am. But the world feels different than from when I last dated, over 20 years ago. Maybe it’s the same and I just didn’t notice then.

Dating sites weren’t the rage back then,and if I was more concerned about partying like my ex was,and not spending with my family,I would’ve built up a larger social circle. Maybe I would have a better opportunity to be setup with dates that way but I don’t.

It seems women are more impatient these days. These don’t want to give you much of a chance to see what can develop between you,and alot of them have this huge list you have to fill to make the grade.

Dating sites seem to be an ego boost for women and ego dump for men. It’s not entirely the case because I know that they deal with alot of predatory creeps that sexually harass them. But for every 100 of those guys, there is a guy like me who will send a thoughtful message about wanting to get to know them as a person. Still, you can easily get blown off there too.

This last woman I meet contacted me. She was sweet,caring and attracted to me. We seemed to have a good connection. I made a joke that wasn’t meant to hurt her feelings. It wasn’t something horrible,and I explained it and apologized. She wasn’t going to give me the benefit of doubt,and hasn’t spoken to me since. I tried on a couple of occasions to contact her, and let her know that I care about her,but it fell on deaf ears. I know I’m a good man but I just feel like women don’t think I’m worth the effort.