Hi I have been in arelationship for 2 years and we have had quite a few problomss throughout we decided a few months back that it would be best for us not to live together so he has a small place a few miles away . I have allways had probloms being in a relationship as i am very insecure recently i have read about codependency and think we are both codependent which makes it difficult though having read about it i am starting to understand and see which i think is helping me change and i am starting to set some boundaries which doesnt mean im shutting him out but learning not to let evrey littte thing tip me over the edge having some stability within myself . not living together is in some ways better for us both we are trying to work things out and at times i feel we will and other times i feel we are slowly seperating it is quite hard and confusing but helps having a space away from each other but when he comes over he may just drop in and pick ssomething up or call over to see me and goes i become really distressed get very upset and feel rejected hurt and then become angry though i know really its better for him to go i cant seem to stop these feelings becoming over whelming the next day i feel ok but its getting to a point where the pain of him going is stopping me wanting to see .
Amy