Hi Carrie,

I would contact him again about re-scheduling. I don’t see any harm in that.

If he doesn’t respond in the next 24 hours. I would delete his number. I apologize in advance, as I’m no expert at these things but that’s how I would handle it, if I was in your shoes.

If he happens to contact you out of the blue in the near future, then it’s under your discretion on how you want to go about that.

Does this advice help?

M.

G’day Carrie,

During out time together, he kept professing how he thought I was cute and fun to be around

Did you end up giving him a call?

Otherwise, from my perspective maybe he is quite shy and in that time and space he felt comfortable enough to say ‘something’ rather than ‘nothing’. I ended up in an uncomfortable position with a woman whom kept putting herself down, ‘i’m stupid’ ‘i’m not as pretty as her’ stuff like this, and i just supported her for that time saying you not stupid and quite pretty. These weren’t hollow words, every woman has the right to feel beautiful, and she was pretty. But i didn’t have the ‘romantic’ attachment that she thought i had. Words are powerful beyond measure, not because they ‘mean’ things, but because they mean things to different people at different times, places with their own perceptions.

Although you feel a connection, it could be that he literally thinks your cute and fun to be around. Maybe he feels that your comfortable to be around as a friend or just an acquaintance. Also you agreed to ‘hang-out’…..if you want to hang-out (IMO) it’s like as friends or just two people hanging out keeping each other company. Whereas a ‘date’ sends the message that your into each other. You want to know more about each other, to see if you could be good company for each other. If you call/ text and he declines or postpones he is non-committal and if you ever wanted a relationship this ‘trait’ would exist. Don’t say ‘give-up’, just move on. Chock it down to experience and keep chugging along.

Keep us updated (if you want) 😉
Sincerely,
Matty

• This reply was modified 8 years, 9 months ago by Matty.

Carrie,

We’re already looking into a week or two in advance

You can continue to try to find time for each other, but it seems that it’s not the right time now to even go on a date, let only start a relationship with someone (if it led to that). You don’t even have enough time for yourselves. If he wants to give up, then you can’t force him to do otherwise. You seem more invested in him, then he does in you. This would not be a mutual relationship. Whether you want to move on or not is up to you (you’re not giving up, you tried, giving up is when you quit before you saw something through). TO me, it seems as if you are regretting something that hasn’t even happened yet. You think if you move on now, it would be a mistake. You can’t regret something that a) was out of your control and b) never happened in the first place. Seriously ask yourself:
What do i really like about him?
Do i only like him because he called me nice things?
Could i realistically make time for him? Could he for me?
Is it worth it?

Obviously the course you take is your own and no one would judge you for following your gut.

Sincerely,
Matty