Hey I would really like advice with this 🙂

I recently had a situation with a guy from another country. We had a “holiday romance” last Summer, I got really into him (I fall hard for people). He started speaking to me again around December, we kept talking and ended up meeting in Europe for a week (he was over travelling). We definitely should have communicated more about our feelings beforehand, I basically had developed a lot of care towards him (naive I know) and he thought the whole thing was super casual.

We sorted things out on the trip and had a good time. There were some red flags with him that on reflection made me pretty happy that this was now just a casual thing. After the trip, (around 3 weeks ago) he messaged once, then dropped all communication entirely… didn’t accept FB request.. no responses to anything.

I feel terrible about this just because he knows how upset it all makes me. I kind of think he is in the mindset of “I don’t want to lead her on again” but I don’t think dropping all communication is the best way to do that, but it is effective however. In a way he has done me a favour because even if he just kept a bit of contact as friends.. maybe i’d have some hope of seeing him again?

I just don’t want to ever reach out to him again because it makes me feel pathetic and silly. So basically I blocked him after not hearing from him for 2+ weeks… I messaged him around 3-4 times? I’m actually surprised he didn’t block me. I learned a lot about myself from the experience so it was overall good. But I feel the deep need to move on now..  he’s been on my mind for so long and so does not deserve to be..

I hated looking at our messages and feeling the constant temptation to see when he was last online, and knowing he’ll have ignored me. I’m going through a very transitional period of my life anyway so I’m especially sensitive to these knocks in confidence.

It just felt silly blocking, because you’d usually block someone if they were harrassing you, not if they were blanking you. So I’m just wondering whether I made the right decision. I’m hoping it will cease the need for me to have validation off him? I don’t want him to think I am immature, but I feel so deeply disappointed and shocked by him behaving this way that I just need to put my mental health first. I’d really appreciate some advice.. thanks!