So I’ll keep this brief. Basically, I have a serious crush on this girl. I met her online and recently finally was able to meet her in person. We’ve just been friends, but have connected deeply and I have a gut instinct she feels similar based on details too lengthy to go into here. After meeting her I realized I really really like her. The trouble is, I’m leaving the country for at least a year in a week. She just moved to my country from abroad and is getting started, although she wants a travel based lifestyle as well. After such a good time I managed to make plans with her one last time, the day of my flight. She was very excited by this. I don’t know if I will ever see this girl again. I certainly want to. My heart wants to tell her how I feel. Not dramatically or anything, gently and maturely.
But is this a bad idea or inconsiderate? I know how I feel, but say the feeling is mutual and then I just have to leave. Is that fair to her? Or is it better to tell the truth. That way if our paths ever crossed again, maybe something would be possible. I know she’s recently out of a relationship, and I am too. So it’s not like either of us would want to make something happen right now anyway. I just feel like life is short and she should know. Anyway, what should I do?
I always think honesty is the best policy. I would just tell her the truth. If you like her, like you say you do, is there any reason, why you can’t see her again? I understand you are moving, but it’s not forever, and many people can have long distance relationships for awhile until they can move back to each other. I always feel, if a man and a woman are meant to be together, a man will move move mountains to make this happen.
What if you share with her what you shared here, in your thread, tell her your truth as is and get her input. Of course it is not a good circumstance for a potential loving relationship to live countries apart. But sharing with her how you feel and your conflict doesn’t mean that you started a relationship with her, does it?