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    Wanderba
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    Hi all,

    So I'll keep this brief. Basically, I have a serious crush on this girl. I met her online and recently finally was able to meet her in person. We've just been friends, but have connected deeply and I have a gut instinct she feels similar based on details too lengthy to go into here. After meeting her I realized I really really like her. The trouble is, I'm leaving the country for at least a year in a week. She just moved to my country from abroad and is getting started, although she wants a travel based lifestyle as well. After such a good time I managed to make plans with her one last time, the day of my flight. She was very excited by this. I don't know if I will ever see this girl again. I certainly want to. My heart wants to tell her how I feel. Not dramatically or anything, gently and maturely.

    But is this a bad idea or inconsiderate? I know how I feel, but say the feeling is mutual and then I just have to leave. Is that fair to her? Or is it better to tell the truth. That way if our paths ever crossed again, maybe something would be possible. I know she's recently out of a relationship, and I am too. So it's not like either of us would want to make something happen right now anyway. I just feel like life is short and she should know. Anyway, what should I do?

    #192195

    Eliana
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    Hi Wanderba,

    I always think honesty is the best policy. I would just tell her the truth. If you like her, like you say you do, is there any reason, why you can't see her again? I understand you are moving, but it's not forever, and many people can have long distance relationships for awhile until they can move back to each other. I always feel, if a man and a woman are meant to be together, a man will move move mountains to make this happen.

    #192209

    anita
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    Dear Wanderba:

    What if you share with her what you shared here, in your thread, tell her your truth as is and get her input. Of course it is not a good circumstance for a potential loving relationship to live countries apart. But sharing with her how you feel and your conflict doesn't mean that you started a relationship with her, does it?

    anita

     

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