My ex and I have been broken up for a year now. It wasn’t mutual. He broke it off because he said he needed to find himself and he later added that he felt we want different things.

I don’t get that bit of us wanting different things because I’m still figuring out what I really want (I jump from one desire to another, I’m currently working on it) but him finding himself, I understand and respect. I do want what’s best for him even though I’m deeply hurt by being left.

Its been a struggle trying to move on but I can say I’ve reached a few goals. I’ve been working on a few of my issues lately and I’m even seeing a life coach.

Here’s the thing:
Even if we’ve been apart for a year now, he still tries to keep me in touch. For my birthday, he really went all out with the gifts and the greetings. We haven ‘t been talking as much except for a few occasions where we decided to talk things out (which always ends up with us promising things). I’ve been strictly implementing the NC and all talksre initiated by him. I only reply when I feel its important. I don’t get why he’s doing this and I don’t know where I stand. He says he feels really sad when he can’t talk to me and how I’m his best friend. I’m still have deep feelings for him and I don’t know if its good for me if I be friends with him again.

While I’m not keen on getting back with him now (I want to work on myself), I really miss him. He is my best friend too and I can talk to him about a lot of things other people aren’t interested in. I want to be there for him while he’s on his path of finding himself

But I don’t know if its a good idea since I still think it could work out in the end when we’ve both sorted ourselves out. Do I leave him? Or do should I try to make this friendship work?