I’m new to TB and need some input from others who don’t have a stake in the outcome. I haven’t been able to resolve my feelings on what feels to me like a repetition of old family triangulation that has been so hurtful to me. I’m 62, female. I got married 8 weeks ago. My fiance and I provided 9 months notice to family and friends of the date and location. We let everone know in advance that we were paying for 2 nites’ accomodations and meals & cocktails for our guests at the location, as our gift to them. Everyone we invited attended, altho everyone had to travel 3 to 10 hours, depending on where they live. We only had 20 ppl for the wedding day, including ourselves, due to Covid precautions/distancing, etc.  Our guests are ages 34 to mid 70’s. Everyone attended, that is, except for my 2 sisters. One is older, lives in the same town I do (altho the wedding site was 3 hrs from our town), the other sister is younger, lives in Cali. 2 months before the wedding my younger sister called me, explained she was nervous to fly and go thru airports due to Covid fears. I understand her reasoning, and graciously accepted her decision not to attend. A month later my older sister called and listed about 4 reasons why Covid precautions would prevent her from attending. I was shocked and angry but managed to stay polite and brief on the phone. No accusations. Her failure to come is what I don’t quite understand, b/c she goes to restaurants and the gym. Our ceremony was outside, and inside we maintained seating and table distancing, as restaurants must do in our state. Originally we had a “closer in person” meal arrangement, but changed it, and she knew of the change 8 days ahead. Still she did not come. She texted me Best Wishes on the morning of the wedding – that was it.  The reason this bugs me is there has been triangulation between me and my sisters for 20 year or more. They  have more in common than i do with either of them but I always treat them with respect but guard my feelings. Every 3 or 4 years one or both of them will email me out of the blue to criticize something they feel I’ve done wrong or to condemn my supposed bad attitude or the way I handle basic life choices. Some of the emails were quite condemning…no discussion, no hint ahead of time. I have never done that to them. We have always resolved our issues but I have not groveled…in those cases, just moved on with my life. This time I’m still hurt by my older sister’s nonattendance at my wedding. I am ready to sever our relationship for good. It feels like the same old impolite treatment. I would like your opinions. Thank you.