I am needing some help and advice, im feeling lost, alone and broken

I have a relationship of almost 2 years, which in my opinion was a soulmate. Te love between us was so unique and strong.
It was real love and also a best friend. I can sense that he still loves me. We did everything together and were a team
I thought I was a strong person until I discovered how weak love can make you
There have been many issues between us and yet I have always been loyal. I have taken care of him in every way I could, wherever I can. I have supported him financially at a difficult time. Supported him and helped him with personal issues he has
I supported him always on his emotional wellbeing and his feelings, issues. He treated me nicely,
Yet his personal problems have taken on our relationship.
He was also a little bit insecure of hiself because of some issues he has
He doesn’t manage to communicate normally, he isn’t clear and I noticed that he couldn’t empathise with my feelings and needs
I do NOT ask for much! Only support me mentally and emotionally, be there for me.. listen.. support my needs as I ALWAYS did for you… And we were growing a bit apart
We had a discussion last friday
We had said some things to each other out of anger
But I had always been respectful to him
Suddenly he stood up and grabbed his things and walked away, angry.
I thought okay I let him cool off a lil bit
I tried to call him the next day, no answer or response
and then,  he continued to give me the silent treatment
He has seen all my messages but refuses answer or communicate
He sucks all the energy out of me I havent slept for days
After that I sent him a lot of messages to make up
I even went to his house  but he does not open the door for me
When he didn’t open the door, it felt like a sting in my heart
But what did I actually do wrong?
On the third day he sent me a short message that he needed some time.
I asked, thats oke how long? My birthday is also next week and we made plans
His answer was on the fourth day only: ”i am gone for one month, i feel lost and broken”
I was so hurted en begged him through message to pick his phone up to talk
Yes he can take time, but not to speak to me for 1 month
He also skips my birthday which is about to happen!
He doesn’t ask for my feelings, he doesn’t ask if I am ok
He doesn’t call me, or checks up on me how I am doing

It is all about him
The silent treatment made me insane
To this day I have not heard anything and I know he is going to persevere.
I also know that he is not going to congratulate me.
And this is not the eesrte times he gives me the cold silent treatment
Previous amand this also happened but perhaps for 3 days
But why should I beg for clarity? Why should I beg for communication?
He knows that I am going to break down. He knows how to make me crazy
Because I told him last time what it do to me
and of course he knows me very well
And my birthday is also next week
I am broken
What is your advice?
Do I have to deal with emotional abuse or perhaps narcissism?
Our problem now is so easy to solve
But he makes it enormously dramatic
Communciation is the key but he refuses it
The whole relationship actually runs on him…
I have decided not to call or text him, it feels like he is punishing me
What should I do? I need advice. Thanks and sorry for the long story
!i need to pour my heart out. I am crying and not eating for days

I can not believe the betrayal and heart pain he gives me
The last message is sended him was I do not accept this behavior and I will not wait. Goodbye”

• This topic was modified 6 years, 11 months ago by tinybuddha.
• This topic was modified 6 years, 11 months ago by dahliarubi.