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  • September 5, 2020 at 6:35 am #366182
    Joe
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    I have never had a relationship before so whatever seems obvious will not be to me.

    I am aquatinted with a girl who I would like to get to know more about and possibly start dating, I am unable to talk in person to girls but I can sometimes do it online and I have their Instagram. I have never had proper conversations with them before and would like to know a way to start a conversation, without being flirty or anything like that, and be able to get to know them better and become more than just acquaintances.

    If anyone has any good advice to try to help I would love to hear it. Thanks

    September 5, 2020 at 10:09 am #366203
    Anonymous
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    Dear Joe:

    You shared that you want to get to know girls better and “become more than just acquaintances” beginning online- I suggest that you start by reading what individual girls share online regarding their interests, and ask each a question about her interest. If she answers, take it from there.

    If you want to post an example of a girl’s interests that she expressed online, and be given a suggestion as to what question you can ask her, you are welcome to post it here and I will reply again.

    anita

    September 5, 2020 at 10:44 am #366207
    Joe
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    The only post on her page are photography from walks that she has been on so if you know anything that might start a conversation about that then that would be amazing.

    Thanks Joe

    September 5, 2020 at 11:59 am #366211
    Anonymous
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    Dear Joe:

    Pay attention to the photographs of her walks: are these walks by the ocean, or in the woods? If you have experience taking similar walks, you can message her that you too like to walk by the ocean (if that’s the case), or in the woods.

    Notice if there are other people walking with her in those photos, you can message her that you like to walk solo or in a group, you can ask her if she belongs to a hiking group.

    anita

    September 5, 2020 at 1:52 pm #366215
    Joe
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    most of her posts are in the woods with no one in any of them, what sort of things do you think I should say?

    thanks joe

    September 5, 2020 at 2:05 pm #366217
    Anonymous
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    Dear Joe:

    If you have some experience walking in the woods, you can tell her what you like about it and ask her a question. For example: I enjoy walking in the woods when all I hear is the leaves blowing in the wind, and the Fall, I like the Fall the best because of all the leaves Falling all around me. What do you like best about walking in the woods?

    anita

    September 5, 2020 at 2:06 pm #366218
    Joe
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    that’s great thanks, would that be the first thing I send or should I start with something like hi how are you?

    thanks joe

    September 5, 2020 at 2:11 pm #366219
    Anonymous
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    Dear Joe:

    I wouldn’t start with how are you, if this is the first message you send her. Start with what she presented online for the public to see (which includes you), and that’s her walk in the woods.

    anita

    September 5, 2020 at 2:18 pm #366220
    Joe
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    so maybe something like, “Hi I liked the pictures of the woods you’ve posted, I really like going for walks in the woods as well.” Do you think that might work

    September 5, 2020 at 3:32 pm #366221
    Anonymous
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    Dear Joe:

    I’d add some detail to the message, and a question, so to invite her to a conversation, like I suggested to you in the example I gave you earlier.

    (I will be away from the computer for a while).

    anita

    September 5, 2020 at 3:35 pm #366222
    Joe
    Participant

    Hi Anita,

    Im sure I can do that. Thanks you so much you’ve been a great help.

    Joe

    September 5, 2020 at 7:27 pm #366237
    Anonymous
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    Dear Joe:

    You are welcome. If you want to post again for more of my input, please do.

    anita

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