Hi Anita,

You summed that up very well.

Me and my mom are really close, we are like best friends, we share everything together now.

Around the time I met my ex, my mom had been married to this horrible guy we actually hated me.

They got married, he was very much like a child, constantly stropping around. He drank most evenings and didn’t particularly like me around.

So I assume when my ex came along it was the perfect excuse to leave, as I didn’t like mum’s husband much either. He would often leave my mum for periods at a time, leaving my mom devastated. Me and my mum’s husband would often clash as I would stick up for mum but she was kinda naive to him I suppose, and tolerated this behavior. He put a strain on my relationship with mum.

So being at the ex’s seemed like the right thing, neither mum’s house or his house was a safe haven. At the time the violence and controlling started with my ex my mom had filed for a divorce, I didn’t want to put anymore pressure, hurt or shame onto her. I kept it to myself. I could see she was already broken with me actually snapping her in half.

Thank you Anita for taking the time to speak to me.

B X

She understands, she understands the the pain I have been through and understands why I still feel the way I do towards him.

She is very supportive, she allows me to feel all the emotions surrounding the situation.

Hopefully one day I the feelings towards him will ease and slip away. No pain last forever I suppose.

Letting go of him, made me feel like a child again, learning to walk, talk, speak and live myself.

Its been a long process and still on going, I know I will get there eventually with more time and self healing.

Anita if you don’t mind me asking.. How did you become so wise?

I see you replies to a lot of people on this forum, you help so so many people with you wise kind thoughtful responses?

How is life treating you?

Sending my love B X