Dear Nairobi:

It  doesn’t  make  sense  to  wait for your ex boyfriend to  change and become everything you wanted him to be, clear, ambitious, knows what he wants when you already have a current  boyfriend who “is everything I wanted my ex boyfriend to  be: he is clear, ambitious, knows what he wants”.

Other than your emotional attachment to the ex boyfriend. It  is something like this: a young child is crying  over the  torn,  old  teddy bear she  lost. Her parents buy her a  new, improved teddy bear, the child cries: But I was my old teddy bear!

Because  she is emotionally attached to the  old teddy bear, and you are still emotionally attached  to the ex  boyfriend.

Give your current boyfriend time, get to  know him further, and if  he is what you want  and   need, no doubt, you will develop emotional attachment  to him.

anita