This is my first post-so it may be long (apologies). I don’t know what to do about my marriage. Been together almost 5 years, and instead of us growing together- we are growing apart. Complete opposites in nearly every way- so we have many different activites and intrests. Yes, we have supported each other in our interests- yes we have tried new intrests. But there is a bit of disconnect- we barely sleep in the same bed, silence or screaming, no real intimacy. Or friendship it seems. We have had some issues in the past- lying, cheating, ” omitting” – and it seemed we had gotten all past that. I feel like a guest in my own home and have to watch what I say. Don’t get me wrong- I’m far from perfect…and have made my share of mistakes in our marriage. But,it seems like we are almost strangers. We both reassure love for one another- however it seems as if this has become a band-aid. I have read, talked, begged, argued to try and get us back on track. I feel more distant today than I have in a long time. Its hard to stay positive when its unpredictable, its hard to feel love and sexy and desirable when I feel unwanted. We both have good qualities, and not so good quailites. I’m not trying to pin it all on him- but I’m starving…