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October 16, 2013 at 1:26 am #43858rehaParticipant
Being a single mother to 3 gorgeous children is a blessing. Having gone through hardships in life from childhood to adulthood, well! not such a blessing but its ok as it was meant to be in my destiny. Life can be unjust, but then its down to one to make it what is it. Today I live to provide a good future, happy surroundings, love and support to my children, but merely ever think of me. I’ve never been the type of person to have time for me or make time for me for that matter. I live, (as I would say to my friends) for my children. I am constantly told that they will fly their nests eventually, but I’m good with that. I have experienced what seems to be a lifetime of pain, hurt, unfairness, and disrespect. I was not able to experience what it was like to live a little as marriage was in my destiny at 17. Today, I smile watching my children grow with love, care and respect for not just one another, but also for others, whether it be family members, friends or the people within the community. I couldn’t protect them enough at one point in my life, but I can and do now. Many a times, I was unable to see a clear path ahead of me. The thoughts of being a single mother in a community where people dwelled upon others misfortunes made me wonder if I had the strength to overcome the issues in my life to provide a safe environment and future for my children, but this was something I would not let become an obstacle. I put on a hard surface and walked the pathway leading my children. It was through these times I really got to know who was who in my life. I am no longer a victim, nor are my children. I don’t know what lies ahead of us as a family, but I know one thing, we are one, through thick and thin. We have people around us who are positive and give us the strength to continue in life and those people are our friends, which make up our complete family.
November 25, 2013 at 4:25 pm #45806Needy HelperParticipantHi Reha,
I am a divorced father and miss my son terribly.
I don’t think there is anything wrong with ‘living for your children’ because I know how easily they can be taken away. However, you do need to get balance and love yourself also. You need some ‘me’ time where you can have a life outside of your children if only for a short time each week.
Good luck and keep strong.
Lee Davy
http://www.needyhelper.comDecember 8, 2013 at 5:34 pm #46427rehaParticipantHi Lee
Thank you for your kind and encouraging words of support. You’re right. I’ve started to have some ‘me’ time. I do voluntary work with 3 different organisations throughout the week whilst the kids are at school which I enjoy doing and get great satisfaction out of doing so. I also make time to go play badminton with my friends at least once a week. I make myself time to watch movies at home after the kids are in bed at least once a week and on occasions go out every once in a while. I’m improving slowly but surely. I live my life without having a care as to what others may think of me as I am now discovering myself and beginning to like who I am.
My strength and willpower are my children and my friends and I’ve gained enough confidence to know what I am good at best. I will continue to live and not let life live me anymore.
Warm wishes
Reha
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