Dear moonpedal:

Posting etiquette- an excellent title for a thread and I will start one this morning with that title that YOU brought up, so thank you and hope you follow and comment there.

You wrote that you feel guilty for posting your own threads without commenting enough on others’- that tells me you may have the tendency to feel guilty for taking-too-much and not-giving-enough. This tendency is and will be a problem in relationships, leading to getting suck in undesirable relationships. Believing you OWE another when you don’t- GUILT- will keep you where you don’t want to be. Guilt, unreasonable, ongoing guilt is very sticky (the word you used).

Will you write more about your guilt stickiness and how it gets you stuck where you don’t want to be? How and when did it start?

* Jack: You know me, Jack…I do feel compelled to answer but this compulsion is not distressing to me. There are threads I do not respond to, such as about music and sometimes others and it doesn’t bother me that I didn’t respond to any one thread. So it is not an OCD type compulsion. Thank you for the suggestion to not wear myself out. I appreciate it.

anita

Dear moonpedal:

Following you mentioning in your original post on this thread about posting etiquette I started a thread with that title, Posting Etiquette. I copied there the guidelines written by this Forum’s owner. You may want to read it.

Regarding your ex boyfriend, sometimes current in a sticky kind of way. “he gets brought back into my life somehow”= well, who brings him back and how? Maybe you can look at the WHO brings him back and the HOW and safeguard yourself against the WHO and the HOW and that way not have him back into your life…?

anita