i met this guy about 5 months ago through a mutual friend and had an instant connection. we met a couple of times and exchanged numbers and hit it off really well. it was very evident that he liked me and though i was hesitant in the beginning , the way he was with me made all the doubt go away. i was falling for him before i knew it. everything he said or did made me ecstatic. we kept talking over phone and messaging . he said a million things and it seemed like he was just telling about how i have always wanted a relationship. all the little things, he would keep saying things like this would be an ideal date for your liking , this is how a guy will ask you out very soon, who is crazy for you..etc etc. we opened up completely to each other and i let my walls down completely.it was beautiful and both of us were very happy.this was the first time both of felt that way. then he kept casually telling he’s going out, are you free? etc. he didnt directly make any plans or said that he wants to meet. just indirect stuff and also i was busy with college, and i kept telling him he can come meet me anytime he wanted.but it didnt work that way since both of us are very bad at initiating and making plans. and we didnt meet for quite a few days. i was actually waiting for him to make plans or say strongly that he wants to meet. there was a phase where we kind of drifted apart due to this issue.at this time i couldn’t make it to his birthday party(2 days after his actual birthday) due to other reasons either. he was very hurt and i tried to make it up to him and met for lunch. and later things were okayish. and the mutual friend approached me saying he likes me. these two guys are buddies since school and the guy thought it wasn’t right if me and him would be together and that things would complicate between three of us. he backed out and started acting weirdly and distanced a little away from me. and i didnt know why he was acting this way.i thought he was still angry because of the birthday part. it was driving me crazy and when i asked him what was going on, he said he’s not sure what he wants and if getting into a relationship was the right thing thing to do. and that he just wants to be friends .he left to italy for few days and we didnt talk for a while. after a few days he messaged saying he missed me and wanted to get some present from italy but decided not to because he didnt want to get my hopes high and that he still doesnt know if he likes me. after a couple of days, when this topic came up , he’s like he’s got over me and he just wants to be friends. i really liked him and thought this was going somewhere and i have been living in that illusion until recently when he told he doesnt know what he wants.
he made me trust him, and fall for him and all that and now he’s like his feelings for me weren’t strong enough and that maybe it’s meant to be . it didn’t seem like that at all, the way we were he made believe he was really serious about me.
i feel hurt and sad . i don’t understand why he had to make me fall for him when he had no intention of being with me. i can’t seem to get over this, a lot of things remind me of him all the time and i keep hoping that this will work out even when i know i shouldn’t. i feel helpless. any suggestion about what i should be doing would be appreciated.