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June 23, 2016 at 10:03 am #108022LaurenParticipant
For the past 9 months or so I’ve found myself struggling with increasing levels of anxiety and down feelings. I think I can date this back to when my parents went through a rough patch (that has since been resolved), but it left me feeling frustrated and confused. These feelings haven’t been helped due to the fact it was during my final year of University! I saw a councillor during the time of my parents’ semi-breakup, and she helped a fair bit, but it’s 8 months later and I’m feeling worse than ever. I struggle, mentally, when I feel like I’m being judged by my close friends (which happens often, although I’m 99% sure I’m making the lot of it up), and just recently I had to turn down seeing them due to being low on money. What didn’t help was the fact one of the friends guilt tripped me slightly about it, but although I knew I should be brushing it off because I couldn’t help my situation, I felt the feeling of guilt and intense anxiety eating away at me until I full on broke down in tears to my partner for the second time in 2 days that week.
I’ve never suffered from anxiety and/or depression in my life. It’s literally only in the past 9 months that I’ve been plagued with the feelings of anxiety, and to be honest I feel as if it’s getting worse by the day. What do I do? Shall I go and see a doctor? It’s not every day that I feel this way, and I always pride myself on being a happy and optimistic person usually.I meditate often but it only offers short-term relief, and I’m at a loss with what else I can do, I hate hate hate being so anxious all the time. Help!
June 23, 2016 at 10:31 am #108026FayeParticipantHey lozzer
I’ve lived through anxiety and depression most of my life, and the one insight into my experience is that it doesn’t matter what triggers you, or what upbringing you had, unfortunately it is a mental illness that doesn’t have to have any logic whatsoever!
For me this is the scary part, it can happen at anytime and to anyone.
However that is also the saving grace! It will disappear as quickly as it arrived. You just have to focus on getting through the here and now.
There is absolutely no shame in not being your happy self. No one can be 100% of the time, your down times are just as true to who you are as the good times. So take the pressure off, be stressed and anxious if you need to be, and I guarantee if you give yourself that level of acceptance then you will feel so much better.
June 23, 2016 at 8:31 pm #108076AnonymousGuestDear lozzer:
Short term psychotherapy with a competent therapist is the way to go. You wrote you are low on money. I hope you can see a competent therapist who you can afford; maybe your parents can pay for it. Your anxiety has been going on for a while and it’s time to look into it more closely, in therapy.
I wonder, since you said you didn’t suffer from anxiety before your parents’ semi breakup, as you called it, how old where you when they almost broke up, did they fight in front of you, what was it like for you?
anita
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